Hey Ya’ll! So I’ve been thinking about this whole wellness for the mind and body/ vegan challenge I did this last month and I realized that I am so bad about giving myself time to just be and allowing myself some me-time! I am always on the go and trying to get so many things done all at the same time! My friends and my husband call me the “Energizer Bunny,” and while I am glad that I can get and strive to get so many things done all at the same time, it is exhausting! I can’t even begin to imagine what life will be like when Dave and I throw a little one into the picture. For all you moms out there… you are a super hero! Literally, a super hero! I see my friends who have babies and I think, “how the heck were you able to get all of your work done, get dinner on the table, do the laundry (cuz ya know your son/ daughter just went through their last pair of onesies?, workout?!, and have time to hang out with your hubby and the baby?” But the thing that I am finding in myself and them, is we’re exhausted!!! We are doing and doing so much, yet we rarely find times to enjoy moments alone or have some “me-time”.
(Love this pic from Pishposh Baby.)
Because my life is so fast and crazy, I have to schedule out times to hang with friends and sometimes the hubby… that sounds really bad but let me explain. So I can get together with friends and watch a show and just be, it can be really casual, and we need those times with our girls, Amen?! But, I mean setting aside time to invest in my friendships, scheduling one on one times! I am not the best at this and I wish I was better, but I am working on it and hoping that within this year I will see some improvements. So, when i say scheduling out times, I mean scheduling a dinner date with your hubby or special outing, where there is no-one else getting our attention- no cell phones distracting us from being with each other! If you read my post “Loving the Best Way,” you will have read that Dave is a quality time kind of person. Not that I don’t enjoy that as well, but for Dave it is super important to spend “quality time” together and that means we are spending time with each other conversing, and our priority is each other and growing our relationship. Or maybe scheduling a lunch or coffee date with one of your best friends and making sure that they know your attention is on them, not the list of to-do items, or making it a picturesque moment to put on Instagram. I’m not saying its bad to put up some pics showing the fun that you’ve had, but don’t make it all about social media, take a quick pic and put your phone up… make it about you and your friend, investing in each other, investing in your friendship!
The funny thing is that I schedule times out for so many things in life and for special outings with the hubby and coffee dates with the best friends, yet I don’t do this for myself. Why?! I know I’m probably like a lot of other people in thinking that I want to be there for everyone else, and/or help everyone else all the time! Maybe your a mom and you feel like you have so much to do and so little time… I get it, I understand! While these things may be true and you find yourself making excuses for why you can’t do something for yourself, you neglect another truth- “You can’t help others when you are completely exhausted!” Yes, but it is a hard realization to have! If you are completely exhausted, then things will probably take you twice as long to do, you will be less efficient and you may not be the nicest person either. This is a realization that I am coming to more and more as I get older. My patience is affected, my personality is affected, my energy is affected… should I go on?! You deserve some you time!!! I deserve some me-time!
So how will we get it?
Well this last month, I set aside a couple things I could do each night to make myself feel more relaxed, give myself a chance to gain more energy and to simply have some wellness of the body and mind. Since it’s summer, I have a lot more free time than during the school year. Here is a typical day during the school year in the life of Erin Ross:
A Typical Day during the school year
6-4:40am – Wake up, drink coffee, get ready, Devotions- Time varies based on what I have to do in the morning.
7:30am- Get to school
7:40- Begin teaching my before school orchestra
7:40-12 and 1-2:45 Teach Orchestra
3:30-3:40- Leave the school
4 or 4:30- Begin lessons at home (usually 1-3 hours)
6 or 7pm- Head to Orchestra rehearsals (if i have them)
9:30-10:30 Head back home from Orchestra rehearsals
I easily work 16-18 hour days… Yikes!!!
So how will I do it during the school year?!!! I am determined to have some down time for my brain and some “me-time,” so I am going to be scheduling times throughout the week for myself! Maybe it won’t be every day or every other day, but I will make sure to have this time for myself to help energize my body and brain and to help me be a better Erin! Want some “me-time” ideas? Check out my post “Wellness for the body and mind”. here
Here’s your challenge… Here are some steps to take when scheduling some time for yourself, whether you’re new to this or you are really established:
- Write down things you love to do that will help you relax and can be solely about you.
- Schedule out some evenings or at least 15-30 min of time for yourself everyday or every other day (depending upon how much time you want to spend or need). If you want to do something bigger than a bath, etc… then think about what you will need for the “you time” to be successful.
- Put a reminder on your phone or in your planner and make sure you take that time for yourself. (Even if you don’t have the opportunity to do what you planned, do something or put it on another night)
- Enjoy the time you get- try to not think about anything else, but allowing yourself to relax and enjoy your “you time.”
You deserve some “me-time” too! Yes, moms.. i’m talking to you! Yes, hard working determined career girls/ boss girls- I’m talking to you! Yes, student… I’m talking to you! Start scheduling times for yourself daily or weekly… give yourself a special desert, or your favorite coffee drink, or maybe soaking in an amazing bubble bath is your cup of tea. Maybe you love yoga or working out and you want that to be your “me time,” or reading a great book, or given/getting yourself a facial or manicure/ pedicure… Whatever it is… Do it! Take the Challenge… You will feel so much better about yourself, your job, your kids, your husband… everything!